The Person in the Mirror

When you look in the mirror, what do you see? If you’re not yet on your journey towards a fit lifestyle, you probably see something you’re not happy about.


There’s not a thing wrong with that. If you’re just starting on your journey, that’s exactly what you should be seeing. Something you’re not happy with, something you want to change. I know I certainly saw many things that I didn’t like at all. Fat sagging from my waist, stretch marks across my belly, a double chin and saggy, floppy arms. More importantly, I looked in my own eyes and saw a person that wasn’t happy with how he felt or looked. That raw look in the mirror was a part of the impetus that started me on my journey to a lifestyle change.

Illustration: a fat man and his reflection

So, maybe when you see the above in the mirror, that’s what you’ll set your goal at. That reflection in the mirror is what you want to be. That’s great! You’ve set a goal! Now forget that image! First of all, I’m not going to say that’s an unrealistic goal. If that’s what you really want then by all means, go for it! But that’s NOT the image you want in your head! What you want in your head is the real, unedited, unfiltered vision of yourself as you really are now. Absorb the image of that sagging, flabby belly. Absorb the image of those sagging arms. That double chin? Cement it in your mind. Now, piece together that image of yourself and burn it into your memory. You know the old saying, “Know thine enemy”? That’s what that image in your head is, the enemy. You’re going to battle with that person. You’re going to conquer that you and replace it with a new you.

And, you know what? When you’re six or eight months into the journey, you’re going to look in the mirror and you might be very near your goal weight. Your muscles might be starting to show. Hell, you might even have some abs starting to pop. And, the moment you look in that mirror, know what you’re going to see? A fat, saggy, flabby mess. I’m at my goal weight. I’ve achieved a pretty decent level of muscle definition. And, every time I look in the mirror, I see the old, fat me. Well, I see that until I focus. I never give a quick glance in the mirror. I stare for a bit. Think of it like when you step outside on a sunny day. It takes your eyes a moment to adjust. Do that when you look in the mirror. Give your eyes a moment to adjust. Don’t linger on a part of your body that maybe hasn’t shown as many gains. For me, it’s my abs. I invariably start looking in the mirror with a focus on my abs. They’re VASTLY improved. I actually have some definition there. BUT, the years and years of being overweight have left me with sagging skin. They ain’t great. So, naturally, my eyes go there immediately when I look in the mirror. If that was where I stopped looking, I’d never see gains. I’d see a fat man. Then I force my eyes upward. I look at my chest, which no longer has “man boobs”. Then I flex my arms. And, I’ll be damned! Those are some damn fine arms! Then I do something that most of you will probably consider silly. I flex my pecs. And, suddenly, I’m not seeing a fat man anymore. I’m seeing someone who worked his ass off (literally) and has made pretty incredible gains!

Some time back, I posted as a Facebook status that I could understand how Anorexics became Anorexic. That no matter how many times I looked in the mirror, I still saw the fat man that I used to be. It wasn’t until I was able to change my thinking and allow my eyes to adjust that I discovered how I could stop seeing him. It is my sincere hope that you can avoid the abyss that is the “Person in the Mirror” by adopting my method of sight.


Until next time – Live the life!

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